Today (September 14th) is the birthday of Sylvain (my Michael) Bellemare, who passed away in June 2014. I honor and dedicate this blog post to you, my love.
While my family and a few of our close friends know, most people do not know that he and I started our relationship in Second Life (SL). His avatar was Eros Shilova and my avatar is Monavie Voight. We met in real after three years of playing together every night in Second Life and then we were together in real after that.
We had so many good times in both worlds. I moved from Indiana to Vermont, because he lived in Canada, so that we ended up just under an hour away from each other. Second Life paved the way for us to learn about each other while we could make the necessary arrangements in our real lives for us to be together.
We had only our closest friends join us and participate in our special day. Felicia Halderman read what we wrote to ‘to tell our story’. Dressed as fae, our friends Crizzy Delbonnel, Kyra Reiter, and Katydid Something, recited wishes they wrote or prepared for us, and Kenny Devoix (who passed away in 2013) read us a blessing he wrote. Then Eros and I made our declarations of love to each other. Kyz Richez was our DJ and played the songs of our choice for the ceremony and also spun the tunes for the little party afterwards. This video was captured by a professional company in SL to be able to remember our day always.
Here is the ceremony:
SOULMATE UNION OF EROS SHILOVA & MONAVIE VOIGHT
August 18, 2007
Telling the Story…
(Kyz Richez, our wonderful DJ for our event, begins music.)
**Delicia Halderman says:
The story of a soulmate began with Eros and Psyche, the true mythological soulmates. In the Greek myth, Eros (Cupid/Roman) is the Son of Aphrodite (Venus/Roman) and fell in love with the beautiful mortal princess Psyche.
The story starts with Aphrodite’s jealousy, Eros’ forbidden love of a mortal, and Psyche’s lack of trust in the unknown and was fueled by family interference, separation and impossible tasks. Eros and Psyche prove their love and devotion to each other by the sacrifices and giving they did and Zeus granted Psyche immortality to live with her husband, Eros, among the gods.
Likewise, according to the Kabbalists, a soulmate is someone that you love more than yourself and you want to put their needs and wants before your own. Spiritually speaking a soulmate is your other half, the aspect that makes your soul whole again.
A soulmate is not someone you recognize at the beginning of a relationship. It is the reward at the end of the journey. It has to be earned. Worked for. Discovered.
Eros and Monavie started their journey together in a completely different place than where they are now. Where they were both coming from they didn’t recognize each other as soulmates. They have both worked hard at the relationship and are always putting each other first before their own desires and wants. Caring more for the other’s happiness than their own. Through all of this, they have discovered they are each other’s half. What makes their souls whole again. They have both earned this union.
From this day forward, their strength will be their love. This marks the beginning of what is their real journey…..
the jouney of their soulmate union.
(end of story)
Air Supply ~ Two Less Lonely People In the World
**Crizzy Delbonnel said:
*~*Eros and Mona* ~ *
Man and woman are like the earth, that brings forth flowers in summer, and love, but underneath is rock.
Older than flowers, older than ferns, older than foraminiferae, older than plasm altogether is the soul underneath.
And when, throughout all the wild chaos of love slowly a gem forms, in the ancient, once-more-molten rocks of two human hearts, two ancient rocks, a man’s heart and a woman’s, that is the crystal of peace, the slow hard jewel of trust, the sapphire of fidelity.
The gem of mutual peace emerging from the wild chaos of love.
**Kyra Reiter said:
We bathe your palms
In the showers of wine,
In the crook of the kindling,
In the seven elements,
In the sap of the tree,
In the milk of honey,
We place nine pure, choice gifts
In your clear beloved face:
The gift of form,
The gift of voice,
The gift of fortune,
The gift of goodness,
The gift of eminence,
The gift of charity,
The gift of integrity,
The gift of true nobility,
The gift of apt speech.
**Katydid Something said:
Gaelic Wedding Blessing
Mi\le fa\ilte dhuit le d’bhre/id,
Fad do re/ gun robh thu sla\n.
Mo/ran la\ithean dhuit is si\th,
Le d’mhaitheas is le d’ni\ bhi fa\s.
“A thousand welcomes to you with your marriage kerchief, may you be healthy all your days. May you be blessed with long life and peace, may you grow old with goodness, and with riches.”
May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.
May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.
May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.
**Kenny Devoix said:
As the grass of the fields and the trees of the forest bend together under the pressure of the storm, so you two must bend when the wind of change blows strong. May you both stand strong in each others strength. As you give strength, so you will receive strength. As you give love, so you will receive love. Together you are strong in love, may your love feed you and keep you well.
I ask the spirits and souls of our ancestors to bless the union of these two souls. Help them, guide them, protect them and bless their lives. May their life be a reflection of life in its perfect union. From this moment on may you walk together life’s long path.
May the warmth and light of your union be blessed and may the blessings of the Lord and the Lady be with you now and always
Air Supply ~ Now and Forever
DECLARATION OF LOVE:
** Eros Shilova said:
Before i met Mona, my life have no flavor, no spice. Then i saw a vision one night – a girl whose energy captured my attention, put it in a cage, and threw away the key.
As the evening progressed, I explored deeper into her mind, her heart, and her soul, and I found that for which I did not even know I was searching – my soul mate!
Mona is a woman with whom I can share my darkest emotions and my brightest happiness, my worst moments and my best times. She is a woman that i know that i will love forever, and that i will respect with each day of my life.
Mona, I love you! You have changed my life in the best possible way. I will always be there for you. Your true love, EROS xxxxxxxxx
**Monavie Voight said:
My dearest Eros…. the greatest thing to come out of sl…..
the night we met, i knew we’d be together….. because we started talking like friends, even tho we were both on the hunt… (wink)
and we’ve grown so close and explore each other in so many ways
i promise you my honesty
i promise you my heart
i give you my soul
we will have many nights of love and passion
and will explore all that we can
because we are soulmates 🙂
and we were destined to meet at exactly when we met
i love you, Eros, with all of my heart 😉
(kiss to seal the union)
(song plays during kiss):
Jason Donovan ~ Every Day (I Love You More)
Faith Hill & Tim McGraw ~ Lets Make Love
The memories we shared in SL and the memories we shared for four more years in real will always be with me. I will see you in another lifetime and until then, I will carry you in my heart.